There are two ways of exerting one’s strength; one is pushing down, the other is pulling up.” –Booker T. Washington
Just some food for thought — how are you using your power? Are your words, thoughts, and actions lifting you up — or are they wreaking havoc in your life?
What is the impact of your words/behavior in other people’s lives? Some people seem to take pleasure in criticizing others, in tearing others down. This can occur face-to-face (like during an argument), in writing, or behind your back. Why do they do it? Here’s what I think: 1 – They really do want to cause you some pain. Have you heard the phrase “misery loves company?” If they are in pain they want to inflict pain on you because they can’t stand seeing you happy when they aren’t. 2 – Payback – they blame you for causing them pain so they want to get revenge by hurting you. 3 – They are envious of you/others. 4 – Insecurity – maybe they feel inferior to you so they think tearing you down kind of makes things even. If they succeed in tearing down your self-esteem, maybe you won’t leave them. 5 – Maybe they do it to make themselves feel better, to feel superior to others. 6 – Maybe it’s a way of distracting themselves from dealing with their own issues.
What are your thoughts on this topic?