Do you sometimes feel like you are the only person in the world who is crying, feels hurt, or is in pain? Do you feel like no one else is going through what you are experiencing? If it’s any comfort to you, know that you are not alone — everybody hurts. Some people just paste a smile on their face and go out into the world and act as if their life is perfect — or at least near perfect. Others have no problem letting the whole world know how bad they’ve got it. Some people are jealous of others because they think their lives are perfect and pain-free. One thing I’ve found to be true is that no one’s life is pain-free. It could be emotional or physical — pain is pain. Everyone has their own way of dealing with it. Years ago I remember I was upset about something and then I ran into two friends that same day who told me what was going on in their lives. I knew one friend had a twin brother who struggled with multiple sclerosis. Now his other brother had been diagnosed with the disease and was rapidly deteriorating. And on top of that his mother was diagnosed with cancer. The other friend was distraught because she just found out her husband had an affair. I remember thinking my situation wasn’t one I wanted, however, I thought their situations seemed worse. I knew I definitely wouldn’t want to be in their shoes. I don’t remember what was bothering me at the time. If I was to guess, I’d say work was stressing me out or my mother was in the hospital.
There was another incident when I was in my twenties that stuck with me. One day I had to ride the bus to work. I took my seat and was looking at the other passengers as they boarded the bus. I noticed a young woman who looked to be about my age. I remember thinking that she was pretty, dressed nice and probably had a husband who really loved her — and a perfect life. Not long after that one of the women I carpooled with said another woman would be carpooling to work with us for a little while. Well it turned out to be the same young woman from the bus. She was 27 years old, divorced, and was living in the basement of her parents house with her three young boys. Not living the perfect life I had assumed.
Whatever you are going through right now, know that you are not alone — nor are you the only person on this earth who is experiencing what you are experiencing right now. Everybody messes up, and sometimes people hurt the ones they love. Everybody hurts.
The next time you’re upset or hurting remember this story:
The Cross Room
The young man was at the end of his rope.
Seeing no way out, he dropped to his knees in prayer.
“Lord, I can’t go on,” he said.
“I have too heavy a cross to bear.”
The Lord replied, “My son, if you can’t bear it’s weight, just place your cross inside this room. Then open another door and pick any cross you wish.”
The man was filled with relief.
“Thank you, Lord,” he sighed, and did as he was told.
As he looked around the room he saw many different crosses;
some so large the tops were not visible.
Then he spotted a tiny cross leaning against a far wall.
“I’d like that one, Lord,” he whispered. And the Lord replied,
“My son, that’s the cross you brought in.”
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When life problems seem overwhelming, it helps to look around and see what others are having to endure. Then you may see for yourself that you are more fortunate than you realized.
~ Author known to God ~
Here’s the song lyrics to “Everybody Hurts” by R.E.M:
When the day is long and the night, the night is yours alone,
When you’re sure you’ve had enough of this life, well hang on
Don’t let yourself go, ’cause everybody cries and everybody hurts sometimes
Sometimes everything is wrong. Now it’s time to sing along
When your day is night alone, (hold on, hold on)
If you feel like letting go, (hold on)
When you think you’ve had too much of this life, well hang on
‘Cause everybody hurts. Take comfort in your friends
Everybody hurts. Don’t throw your hand. Oh, no. Don’t throw your hand
If you feel like you’re alone, no, no, no, you are not alone
If you’re on your own in this life, the days and nights are long,
When you think you’ve had too much of this life to hang on
Well, everybody hurts sometimes,
Everybody cries. And everybody hurts sometimes
And everybody hurts sometimes. So, hold on, hold on
Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on
Everybody hurts. You are not alone