The only thing in this life that we do have control over is ourselves. We can influence others in their decisions and give them ultimatums, which can leave them feeling like they have no choice. You may end up getting your own way, however, the person can end up resenting you for your strong armed tactics. Some people are very skilled at manipulating others to get their own way. I hate it when I think someone is trying to manipulate me. Don’t you?
What can you control? You can control your actions, your behavior. You control what goes into your mouth. You control what you say. You have to work hard to control your mind, and remain in control of it. Why? Because there are plenty of people in this world trying to control us and our thinking. Don’t believe me? Well, I’ve got two words for you — Commercials, News. Now think about that. What are they trying to do? Commercials are to get you to buy their company’s product. In other words, to separate you from your hard-earned money. Heck, we even go into debt just to buy stuff that we really don’t need. And they’ve done a successful head job on telling women that they are not ok just the way they are. The news broadcasts what they want you to see. Their main thing is telling you all the negative stuff, making you think a particular race is responsible for the majority of the crime, and pushing FEAR. I had to stop watching the news before going to work cause it was affecting me negatively. If you get the chance check out these two movies: “Wag the Dog” and “Bowling for Columbine.” You can view them for free at http://www.ovguide.com. You control you, that’s it. So stay in your own business, that’s a full time job. There’s been many a time I’ve seen people get all involved in someone else’s drama. Some people are just what I call “Drama Queens.” Their lives are just one drama after the next. In the end, it caused pain and drama in the life of the person who was just trying to help. It’s hard enough managing one’s own life. You can be a friend without getting sucked in. You’ll be happier and it will reduce the stress and drama in your life. You can’t be in two places at once — not physically or mentally. Ask yourself, “If I’m all up in your business, who is in mine? Maybe escaping from dealing with yourself and your life is the main point. Maybe you just want to feel in control. Or maybe you’re a closet drama junkie — if so, be safe and watch a soap opera. If you really want to help someone, to make a difference in the the lives of others, or even the in world, there are plenty of constructive ways to do it.
Wag the Dog – Robert DeNiro stars as a Washington spinmaster who needs a war to distract public’s attention from a sex scandal involving the President. Dustin Hoffman received an Academy Award nomination for his role in this biting political satire.
Bowling for Columbine – It is a film about the fearful heart and soul of the United States (words taken from the movie synopsis).