Others can stop you temporarily — you are the only one who can do it permanently.” –Zig Ziglar
When you are faced with an obstacle, problem, or a decision to make, do you quickly come up with a solution that you later on regret?
Whether we are faced with a problem, a big decision, or deciding something as small as what to eat for dinner, my dear hubby frequently teases me by saying, “You’re always pointing out the options.” I’m not really sure why I do it. I think it’s because: 1 – I want to make the best decision and not live with regret. Maybe this is a result of my childhood stint as a Girl Scout. Their motto is “Be Prepared.” Hey, this could explain why I overpack for trips. 2 – I want/am sometimes determined to find a way to do what I want (without hurting others), and 3 – it makes me feel like I really have the freedom to choose what is going to happen in my life instead of feeling like a victim, or like I’m being forced to just accept something because there are no other options that appeal to me. That way I’m not just choosing between the lesser of two evils. However, there are some times in life when it feels that way…but in reality, you are still making a choice — even if you don’t like the options. A close friend of mine came up with a good quote — “Some people’s whole life is one big consequence. They are living their lives as a result, as a consequence, of making one poor decision after another.” While I was searching for info for this blog post I came across these videos on obstacles/overcoming obstacles, that I think are worth sharing.
Brian Tracy — Four Steps to Getting Past Obstacles
In a nutshell:
All successful people are solution oriented
1. Define the problem clearly
2. Ask what specifically is holding you back from achieving your goal
3. Determine all the possible solutions. All the different things that you could do to overcome that obstacle. Once you have a list of solutions decide which one you’ll pursue.
4. Take action
Don’t let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.” –John Wooden
Harvey MacKay — Overcoming Obstacles
If at first you succeed, don’t take any more stupid chances. –Anonymous
If at first you don’t succeed, you’re running about average. –M. H. Alderson
If at first you don’t succeed, try, try, try again. –W. E. Hickson
If at first you don’t succeed, try, try, again. Then quit. There’s no use being a damn fool about it. –W. C. Fields