Are you someone people would describe as a “drama queen”?
Does your life seem to constantly move from one drama to the next? I’m not someone who likes drama in my life. However, it seems like some people seem to thrive on it. Things do happen to us that are beyond our control — I’m not talking about those situations. It seems like some people seem to attract drama while others don’t. Ever wonder why? Perhaps it has something to do with their way of thinking. The following story offers some food for thought.
Where Are You Running?
Oh, just to escape and get away from it all! Negative relationships, problems at work, unresolved issues at home — these are just a few of the demanding situations we live with day in and day out.
But before we go running off, change our name, and start over again someplace else, we’d better think about the common denominator in all our problems. Most of those thorny situations have a lot more to do with us than they do with “them.” Our unfair boss doesn’t know our irritating neighbor, and neither of them knows my landlord. The only common element in all those relational problems is me.
When we take the time to search inward for change, we see everything in a different light. What we previously thought vital, becomes trivial. We delightedly perceive that we can truly choose to change from victim to victor. Many people spend their entire lives hoping their circumstances will change for the better. Circumstances only get better as we get better. Things change when we change. A wise man has said, “Unless you change what you think, you will always get what you’ve got!”
Resolving the issues that face us almost always means changing something in ourselves. Much of the hurt that stems from all of them is self-inflicted, whether actively or passively. Even if we ran from those situations, we would likely re-create them in a new setting. When even a part of the problem is us, the solution is ours as well. We can’t run far enough to escape ourselves. –Dennis Kimbro
This is a nice post and reflective of what most of us deal with at some point in time.
DF: Thank you. When we get involved with someone we don’t know what drama they are going to bring into our lives. If I observe that I know someone who happens to attract a lot of drama, I just try to keep my distance — because they will attempt to suck you into their drama.
I’m probably the one w/more drama than Joe.. I swear I don’t intentionally bring it on, but….
I do think that as the child of an alcoholic I lived w/ discomfort to the point that it became comfort so I have in the past had difficulty letting go of things that bring me discomfort..
DF: We all need support and help from others. None of us are perfect. We sometimes make choices that aren’t always the best for us and we suffer the consequences. And sometimes the people we care about and love also suffer the consequences of our actions too. Life might be a bit on the boring side if it weren’t for the drama. Why do we watch movies, tv shows and soap operas? Like a moth to the flame…we are drawn to the drama; we are entertained by the drama.
Like “Mary Engelbreit says “Where ever you go, there you are!” So true!
T: There’s a also a book by that same title by Jon Kabat Zinn. Thanks for visiting the blog. Hope you will visit again. Take care, A.